Oh goodness, I have not written for my blog in such a long time. I have so many different things to share with the world. When I first started TheWhittiest a year and a half ago, it was source for me to publicly vent and share my viewpoints, and I’m sure it will serve that same purpose; however, there is something different about me. One of my mentors told me that the growth that I am to experience through college would be exponential—each chapter I will have not only a deeper understanding of the world, but myself.
Well, to begin with the brief update, I will start like this:
School/Work/Career—School has improved; however, my grades have not in particular (they stayed about the same). I know that does not make much sense, but let me explain. My understanding of the material and the “system” is much greater than before. My love and passion for knowledge has grown deeper, and lastly, I have found where I am ought to be and focus my career on—it turned out to be the last place I was looking, but God works in mysterious ways. I’m looking forward to the next 8/10 years career wise—I don’t think it’ll be anything that I planned, but it will definitely be exactly what I ought to do. I don’t want to say anything about it until it manifests itself, but as soon as it does, I’m sure the entire world will know my plans J.
Friendships—my friendships are so much better. Prayer is the reason for this. One thing I have accepted is that people aren’t perfect (learning and accepting are totally two different things). I’ve accepted my faults and the faults in others, and I have celebrated the greatness in others as well as myself. Friendship is incredibly sweet, and it’s definitely a gift from God.
Relationships—I find the greatest mistake that people make is that people do stuff to get to the next level—talk on the phone so they can hurry up and date. People quickly date…to well, you know, get in a relationship. Everything is in such fast pace, and I was definitely a participant. Al Green has a song that was remade by Corinne Bailey Rae called “Take Your Time.” I said I was taking my time, but I really wasn’t. I was so eagar to get to the next level that I wasn’t enjoying or loving the way I ought to have been. Things are just sweeter because I’m taking my time, and I’m definitely avoiding more disappointments due to being a better judge of character and worth. Before, I wanted several dates to get to know someone… now, I wouldn’t mind a lifetime.
God—I thank God for finding me; giving me the wisdom and peace that I have. All I can say is my worship is probably most transparent that it has ever been. I’m working on an active relationship with God, and beginning to listen to his voice and guidance. I’m getting to where He would like me to be, and although I have such a long way to go, I know that God will carry me on my way. My faith has grown and my creed is even more developed. Someone last year told me that people should know what you stand for within minutes of speaking with you. It is still work in progress—I’m still work in progress—but I do know who I am and what I stand for, and God is at the very core of my being.
I feel as if I make some of the same mistakes but they are far and few in between. I am loving differently; more unconditionally and with greater wisdom. I don’t put myself out as much and I’m more protective of my heart and cautious with my decisions. I still consider myself a free spirit, but I am a free spirit with greater direction and control.
Life is still life. Depression comes; tribulations exist. Life still has such dramatic turns and twist, but now I am more in control. I’ve learned how to show people how I want to be treated, and to only accept what ought to be. At each level and moment of growth of life, there will be something to come and try to knock you out, but it’s really is how you react and come back from those times that make all the difference. Today’s blog is full of clichés and things one should already know at 22 years of age—but there’s a difference. The things I’ve learned, I’m applying and accepting, and I am at peace and happier than I’ve been ever.
So 2012 is a better year, and I am definitely a better Whitney.
Until next time-
This video is totally random, but these are my unedited thought 
The more time that passes, the more experiences I enjoy, the more I love and lose, I am beginning to understand the art of smelling the roses. My mother has been telling me over the past year, “it’s getting there that makes the goal so sweet.” She is right. I was living my life in a rush, where in reality I should simply enjoy the space and time I am in.
Everything is so instant nowadays, but that doesn’t mean I have to live my life that way. I will simply begin to pray longer, talk on the phone longer, work longer, and not be in such a rush to get to the next task. I am going to thoroughly endure whatever is going on because this is the only life on Earth I have—I refuse to be 100 years old and not say, “I have indeed lived.”
I have to slow it down. Success is going to come; graduation is going to come; love is going to come. Some may say it’s the art of patience, but I believe it’s the secret to living a gratifying life. I feared this because I felt it would take away from my edge, my resume or “my grind,” but it does not. It simply makes it sweeter. I have a feeling I am going to accomplish just as much going at a steady pace versus rushing, and I’ll look better doing it too.
So, as of today, at this very moment, I am going to take my time. Surely, urgency will have its place, but it will no longer describe my lifestyle. Benchmarks will only be set by purpose, desires, excellence and service to mankind, and not by what I feel I should accomplish or do by certain age. I’m excited about life because each season, I’m so much better than before-
Until next time….
It is the 5th day and here are my new video posts
I live this quote:
“You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth.”
So I am going on a “Change of Lifestyle” Challenge- this will require me to:
- Eat 1400-1600 Cal a day for 90 days
- Work out 4-5 times a week, which will consist of 45 minutes of cardio and resistance training
- Pray
Here are my stats:
- 8-10 top
- 14 bottoms
- 191 lbs
- 5’7
- BMI of 29.7
My immediate goal is to lose 10 lbs by August 12, 2011.
I don’t feel like typing to much so I made a video !
Please leave a comment or make a notes to come and check out the blog to stay ENCOURAGED! We can do this!
Love all of you! The first day is July 11, 2011
theWHITTIEST ..aka…Whit
**This would come at a time where I should be sleeping or studying for finals, but hey, such is life**
We are forever changing; nevertheless, through our growth there are some aspects about our character composition that should indeed be unchanging. There ought to be a creed that we decide to live by that frames our being and can be colored with the crayon of permanency. For me, that’s to be true to me and those who are in my life. We all vary in our makeup in which creates different personalities, drives, pleasures, and experiences, but we all need and long for one thing—the desire to feel whole. Where we search for those desires differ, but the need is all the same.
So in the same moments of finding out Osama bin Laden is dead, I begin to think what is going to change and what has changed about me. Everything has changed; even my character and my understanding of what is “right.” Yet my audacity and strength to remain true to myself has remained consistent. My love for people and gratefulness of my relationships has grown stronger and with more understanding. The only consistency that can remain in anyone or any group of people is his or its ability to stay honest and truthful to himself. We must accept change with the same strength and truthfulness we accept success. We must be consistent in not who we are, but more so in the truthfulness of reality our decisions create us to be.
Ladies and gentlemen, this has unfortunately become my new slogan, “I tried to be yo friend.” In all seriousness, I believe it states exactly what men and women battle when there’s an underline tension of attraction and things go bad. When it comes to the world of developing new friends, courtship and dating, there’s only so much one can do to prevent from losing one’s cool, or in other words, save face. For example, one can’t call too many times, text to many times, allow his/her true feelings. Fortunately/unfortunately (the jury is still out), my pride isn’t that tall. If I want to call one, I’m simply going to pick up the phone and call. If I want to text someone and he/she have yet to respond to my last text, I’m going to text. I’m not a huge participant of the game playing. In all actuality, I really just LOVE people and want to get to know them. So, when it comes to courtship and dating or getting to know people, I simply invite them to participate in daily activities that I’d otherwise be doing alone—eating, going to the movies (yes, I go to the movies alone), shopping, etc.
So when it comes to men, when they seem to not be interested or start playing games so I can in-turn like them more, I simply call it like I see: I tried to be yo friend, but I guess I won’t be. Then, I move on. I think if people approached courtships and friendships like this, it would help so much. My friendship is so golden that I refuse to offer lack-luster enthusiasm when it comes to the people I want to get to know and friendships I currently have. Also, (on a much deeper note) I’ve experience a lot of death, so I value my time greatly. I don’t play games because people are important and are not made to be played with; that’s why we have Call of Duty (which by the way I have yet to play Black Ops; I’ve been fancy lately).
So am I wrong? Do I need to play games more? In the dating world, is it necessary to do so? Is there a rule/guide book that was given to everyone but me? Someone please help me out, because I’m clearly clueless. Who knows? Seriously…. But in the meantime, cross your finger in hopes that I’ll try to be yo’ friend.
Until next time…
I have been profoundly blessed with the gift of love. I was smothered in so much love growing up that when such times of destruction and pain arrived, I fear not because I knew love will resurrect me. My family has provided such an amazing foundation of what it means to truly be there through thick and thin, and be of good character, that even when I fall short, I have the confidence to rise up again. As I’ve recently heard from a Lauryn Hill speech, I’ve learned over the past seven months being in Europe that it is so much better to be righteous than to be right, and that’s exactly where I am now.
Since I have been back, things are not as I expected them to be, but they are indeed the way they ought to be. I’ve certainly been tested in the areas of love, and I have come to the conclusion that to truly loving unconditionally is the only love that really is. How redundant it is to say, “I love you unconditionally,” where love within its own definition is an act, behavior, and way of life of un-conditionality. More importantly, it is unconditional act that’s a choice. It’s so easy to love when you’re being love, but what happens when the people who were suppose to love you, be there for you, cheer you on, don’t love you back? What happens when your companions feel as they should be your competition or that your lover doesn’t even make the effort to love you back?
Love them anyway, but most importantly love yourself. That’s what I’ve decided to do, to love unconditionally, and to appreciate wherever I am. It’s incredibly healing. Life can be so painful, draining, cruel and humiliating, but love can bring you through all of that. With all that I do, whether it is school and work, or friendships and relationships, love allows me to serve in such a way that I do my best—that I live in my excellence. The beauty in that is my standard of excellence rises as I love more, and I’m happier, I’m more productive, and I am a better participant of life.
So, I have been profoundly blessed with the gift of love, and I’ll forever have a spirit of thankfulness as a result. Although I shall continue to go through these various changes, and develop into the woman I am to become, my heart must remain the same. I love my heart, and I pray my heart shall only change in the ways that resemble God.
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